I am currently flying back home after the best weekend in Seattle with one of my best friends from Nursing School, her sweet husband, and their adorable new baby girl ‘Frankie’. Having gone through the newborn stage with 3 babes of my own now (including the twins), it is so fun for me to be able to visit and love on my besties when they have a new baby!
We all know how hard the first few months of life with a newborn are. The constant brain fog, intense lack of sleep, wandering around aimlessly in the same sweat pants you’ve had on for 4 days now and no idea what day it is. It is truly a difficult, messy, and beautiful time.
Knowing this, you might wonder, what is something you can do for your friend that is truly HELPFUL in this newborn stage? I came up with 5 things that I think are super helpful during this time!
- Chores. Do the dishes, fold laundry, sweep the floor, or whatever it is that needs to be done, just do it! I know it’s way more fun to just come over and hold the baby, but chances are, that new Mama is falling way behind on housework and doing a few things while you’re there can make a huge difference for her and help decrease stress.
- Buy and deliver groceries. In the midst of the chaos after you have a new baby, it is so hard to make it out to the grocery store. Plus finances might be a bit tight with hospital bills, maternity leave, and all the new baby expenses (who knew how many diapers a tiny baby could go through in one day!). So this is one of my favorite ways to love on new parents. If you know them well you might already have an idea of what type of food they prefer, but if you don’t, just ask! Sure they might try to turn you down but tell them you are not taking no for an answer.
- Hold the baby so they can nap, or shower, or brush and style their hair for the first time in weeks. When I was a new mom this was one of the most difficult things for me to do…I had several friends that would come over and say “I know how tired you are, why don’t you go take a nap and I’ll watch the baby!” It truly can be difficult to relinquish control of that sweet new babe and go nap, so don’t be offended if they decline. It still means a lot that you offered. But new Mamas, hear this: SLEEP any chance you get! ;)
- Help with dinner! Whether you have the time and skills to cook a homemade meal, OR you order takeout from one of the many food delivery services, you are still being a huge help. Another thing I love to do is bake lactation cookies and bring them if mom is breastfeeding! I will link my favorite recipe from How Sweet Eats HERE. And if you really want to help out, throw in some breakfast and lunch items plus another meal or two (or extra batch of cookies) they can freeze for later.
- Listen to them. The first few weeks postpartum are such an emotional time! Those hormones are REAL, y’all…I can’t even tell you how many times I was in tears over the most ridiculous reasons. So ask them how they’re doing…let them tell you every detail about their birth experience…how is breastfeeding going and how they are pretty sure their nipples will fall off any second…and commiserate with them about how insanely hard the lack of sleep is. But even more importantly, encourage them. Remind them that they are killing it at this Mama thing and you are so impressed with how they’re adapting. Remind them that they are not alone in the struggles and that you are here to rejoice with them in the triumphs too!
What is your favorite way to love and serve your friends in this stage of life? I would love to hear in the comments below!
Also if you don’t already follow me on Instagram I would love to hang out with you over there! You can find me at @DeliveringMotherhood or at THIS LINK. I shared all the details of my Seattle trip in my feed and especially in stories. Make sure to check out the ‘Seattle’ highlight on my profile if you’re curious!